What is pride?
Why is it needed much?
What does it mean to you?
Yes, but in reality?
What is it actually, then?
Where does it spawn from? What’s its source? When was the first time I experienced that?
What’s its narrative? What might this story tell you, actually? About you? About us, then?
Why is it keep repeating in every life stage?
What was I doing at those times? How specifically was I acting or behaving?
Who are there with me at those times? Why were they so important to me?
How am I presenting myself to them? For what purpose was I doing what I was doing?
Why is that purpose so dominant? Why was it always like that in my life?
So, what did I learn new about myself now?
What do I want to do with this knowledge, then?
If not apply it now, what might I be waiting for to happen then?
Why do I believe that? How do I know that’s true?
For what kind of an outcome do I envisage or assume?
Who am I in that future?
Is this a better version of myself?
Is it a level-up in my life? Will my life be better and in a fulfilled stage?
Is this what you’ve always been searching for?
Is this the one dream you always lived in your mind’s forests and never believed that it was possible? Like this thing that you know but can’t explain?
What is it that I want to do now?
What is the simplest way to start doing this?
What might be the first step towards it?
Why does “that” step seem that way? Also, I made other first steps differently in life, didn’t I? How come, then?
Why is there even a gap?
So, Am I willing to take that first and simplest step that would carry me closer to what I want in life?
If I am not, what stops me today?
Who is stopping me, then?
How long more do I want to keep that blockage? For what purpose?
When will be the right time then? Why do I believe in this way?
And what now?
What would you be willing to do about it?
Hey dear friend,
Putting things into perspective – a new one – is possible through asking such questions in life.
I can see why it looks like a big thing to do – meaning, you will dedicate time and dare to self-reflect on these questions honestly, even which might lead you to confront with whom you have always been resisting not come eye to eye and also to know deep down that there is a good chance of you end up criticize and judge yourself harshly – leading to feeling not so good about yourself.
This is why all people progress and grow in life differently.
Because we all walk at our own pace and form in life, I can see that no one’s worth or capabilities can be gauged by their place at any moment in this life journey.
This framework might help you to see things in a different light.
Whenever we feel and believe we are in that dark place in life, aren’t we all only looking for a small candlelight flame?
There you go, then. Please use it whenever you see fit.
Change the word ” pride” in the painted yellow section of this post to whatever you experience as a void or an unease in your life today and answer them honestly and as authentic as you can – no one will hear about it – and clarify the “choice” you could take to stop this whatever void or unease you live in your life.
There is no right or wrong way of doing this. Only your way matters; “your way” is what you will learn in truth. If done most authentically, the outcome – your clarity in what you don’t know yet – would be trustworthy enough to serve as a foundation in your life.
This is why your progress is your unique pattern in life.
You have the final saying; Either stay where you are in life as is, your operating system prioritized by what you value most in life,
or
you choose to walk down the rabbit hole – into this deep contemplation- with its entire bag of uncertainty, self-doubt, cuts & bruises due to fallings and failings and still unexplainably know and want to keep walking to wherever it leads.
What might come out of this, and how might that change my life to a better mental, emotional, and physical state?
Please be aware that ” that thing” will keep its place as is, and patterns will go on as is if you would not have a change in your perspective of looking at it. Is it not?
So questions I would be asking myself would be:
Would I want to be in this new place?
Would that be the same place I would rather be?
You always have the final saying at all times.