My presuppositions

  • Counseling is not for FEELING better; it’s for BEING better…
  • The counseling relationship is a collaborative experience that requires dialogue rather than a monologue while conversing.
  • You and I are one team, and I’m on your side to understand you, to listen to you” as you” rather than labeling, generalizing, criticizing, or judging you.
  • Responsibility breeds empowerment.
  • We change only when our desire to change is more significant than our desire to remain the same.
  • Emotions are NOT illnesses. They are effects of a previous CAUSE.
  • You may feel confused or experiencing an imbalance in your life, but you are NEVER a broken person. No one EVER is.
  • I can not fix you; I can not heal you; I will not give any advice, answer, or solution you’re seeking. No one can do that for you! But, you will do those for YOURSELF since you have ALL the necessary resources. I will guide you by ASKING questions, and YOU will find out WHAT it is you want to do and HOW to do it so that it works BEST for you.
  • We are one DECISION away from completely changing our lives.
  • This is YOUR life journey, which means you are ALWAYS in the driver’s seat. Only you get to DECIDE how far you want to go or which direction you prefer.
  • You & I will aim to explore and clarify your CORE values and your unique ways of prioritizing them to understand your identity at your core. Hence, you will realize your ideal future self and who you want to become.
  • Trust is our common ground. We can’t move forward if we do not set it up correctly. So this will ALWAYS be our priority between us.
  • We are ALL meaning making machines. We always were. Therefore, this is HOW you know everything you believe you do.
  • The relationships determine the quality of our lives we keep around us.
  • We all have blind spots in life, and because we don’t know WHAT WE DON’T KNOW, a new perspective for looking at things changes everything.
  • You have the innate authority for your life, and neither event, belief, circumstances, or other person and their acts have an actual say in your life IF YOU DON’T ALLOW THEM TO.
  • Like ALL OF US, you are unique, precious, imperfect, and flawed. You are always doing the best you can at any time, just like ALL OF US. Yet, every day, you exercise all sorts of unwise acts & behaviors just like ALL OF US…